-Helen Keller
First off, let me apologize for writing this a little late and for my lack of blogging lately. I’ve had a lot on my plate recently, from the Golden Gloves to some personal goals that needed attention. Now, let me start by saying this is a Monday posting, so I will have a new challenge for this week!
Let’s talk a little about “security” and why people seek it so much. To start off, we all feel vulnerable out in the world sometimes. We look for something to hold on to that we think will make that vulnerability go away and keep us safe from what we dread. The problem with the idea of looking for ways to be “secure” is that it’s a very limiting idea, in a general sense. Now I’m not saying don’t lock your doors, but even that can be said at an extreme level.
There is emotional security and physical security. Most of the time, security is built on false fears that are unrealistic. This is usually because the person hasn’t used much logic behind it; taking the lazy way out, so to speak. For the sake of this example, I’ll use job security. People assume that getting a job with benefits, etc is safe. Now let’s look at this and break it down. Why is it safe? If we DON’T get a job, what will happen to us? Will we die? Now most people usually spill out worst case scenarios at this point. But at the end of the day, there’s no real threat to a person’s survival if they lose a job of fail a business, there are always more chances to take up out there. It usually works like this: More risk = More reward.
Now let’s use another example, this time dealing more on the emotional side. Let’s say a guy who ONLY goes after women that he considers are a perfect 10 and another guy sort of settles for a woman he’s sort of attracted to, but won’t kill himself for. People like guy #2 are usually afraid of rejection and look for the “safer” way out. Is this fear justified? Well, let’s look at it in long term versus short term. Chances are that guy #1 will fail more often than guy #2 (although certainly this isn’t always the case) and he might get disappointed and feel rejected. Guy #2 will succeed at a higher rate and feels less of that rejection, but will be less happy in the long run because he didn’t get exactly what he wanted. This goes back to fear, habits, and our rule of “short term comfort – long term discomfort/ short term discomfort – long term success”. Although there is some discomfort, guy #1 gets what he wants 100% of the time and is rewarded more in the long run for his risks.
Risk is a big part of life. There’s no such thing as 100% security. Our minds always blow things out of proportion and make them seem bigger than they are. Once we get into a habit of ignoring that urge to chase after the wild goose called “security”, we will find ourselves taking more risks out there. One problem is thinking about something too much. If we spend too much time thinking about an action or a process we have to go through, often times it breeds negative thoughts like doubt, fear, and different biased, absurd scenarios. One thing is not to think about it and just go through with it. More often than not, the result will be less of a problem than imagined, even positive! One thing to keep in mind is to think logically about what the risks are. The fear of ending up somewhere uncomfortable is not to be feared at all. Humans can adapt and they can do it well. If you can’t find an answer for an assumed failure, you DEFINITELY will if you ever send up there. We always do what we have to in order to survive and new ideas based on the situations we are in will arise. True security is solving problems, not anticipating them..
This Weeks Challenge: Try to go through an entire day with no talking at all. Go out like a normal day, but do not speak to anyone in person, on the phone, etc.
Please post your experiences and opinions!
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